Can’t You Feel The Love? Biphobia in The Bisexual Community

I recently came across this post on Tumblr:

I love how everyone thinks that bi sexual spread diesases ummm hello so does every other sexuality out there god damn!! i dont understand and not every single bi sexual is a slut or a whore….there are some normal people out there seriously…i extermely dislike the people who are bi sexual for fun or think guys like it or this bi curious b.s you r or u arent sorry thats just how i feel about it
Submitted by jellybean93
[Note from FYBis: using ‘normal’ to describe a set of individuals may infer that there is something wrong with those who don’t ‘fit in’ that model but regardless of whether you are promiscuous, or not - nobody is the ‘poster child’ for bisexuality’]

There are so many things wrong with this statement by jellybean93… way to spread hate with more hate *thumbs up*

Being bi curious is completely valid, it doesn’t mean that you’re only doing it to please guys or because it’s “fashionable”, it means what it says, that you’re curious and questioning your sexuality. Being judgmental about it is really just another form of biphobia.

Many people have a fluid sexuality that changes throughout their life time. There is no “either you are or you’re not”. That’s the same as saying you’re either straight or gay, something those in the bisexual / pansexual / omnisexual / nonmonosexual community are constantly fighting against. Sexuality is a spectrum, and a person’s place on that spectrum is not fixed. That’s actually one of the reasons I identify as queer, as well as pansexual.

I would also like to point out that being a slut or a whore doesn’t mean that you’re not practicing safe sex, to infer otherwise is just slut shaming. Also, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being slutty or a whore, enjoying consensual, responsible safe sex is what matters, not how many different partners you have, or how often those partners change.

h/t fuckyeahbisexuals

Love is Love – Message to all Readers

J and I are moving tomorrow, nothing to do with the Christchurch earthquake (though many people are leaving Christchurch, some may never be coming back). This move was already planned.

Unfortunately, because of the earthquake, it may take a while for our phone line and internet to be connected. I will still have internet access on my iPhone and there has been a “chill-out” lounge set up at uni with wifi access. I definitely won’t be able to post as regularly as I would like, if at all.

If you want to contact me just to chat or whatever (and I would very much appreciate this, would help me somewhat maintain my sanity), you can @ me on twitter either here (SpiritedFae, NSFW) or here (faeteardrop) (and you really should be following both accounts anyway ), email me directly, or hit me up on Facebook.

As a parting gift, I give you an image that I reblogged on my Tumblr that I just had to share with you all here as well:

Because love is love, whether that person be male, female, transgender, fluid, or anything in between.

Bright Blessings and Great Love to all of you wonderful people. I shall miss you during this little break.

xx ~ Fae