Can’t You Feel The Love? Biphobia in The Bisexual Community

I recently came across this post on Tumblr:

I love how everyone thinks that bi sexual spread diesases ummm hello so does every other sexuality out there god damn!! i dont understand and not every single bi sexual is a slut or a whore….there are some normal people out there seriously…i extermely dislike the people who are bi sexual for fun or think guys like it or this bi curious b.s you r or u arent sorry thats just how i feel about it
Submitted by jellybean93
[Note from FYBis: using ‘normal’ to describe a set of individuals may infer that there is something wrong with those who don’t ‘fit in’ that model but regardless of whether you are promiscuous, or not – nobody is the ‘poster child’ for bisexuality’]

There are so many things wrong with this statement by jellybean93… way to spread hate with more hate *thumbs up*

Being bi curious is completely valid, it doesn’t mean that you’re only doing it to please guys or because it’s “fashionable”, it means what it says, that you’re curious and questioning your sexuality. Being judgmental about it is really just another form of biphobia.

Many people have a fluid sexuality that changes throughout their life time. There is no “either you are or you’re not”. That’s the same as saying you’re either straight or gay, something those in the bisexual / pansexual / omnisexual / nonmonosexual community are constantly fighting against. Sexuality is a spectrum, and a person’s place on that spectrum is not fixed. That’s actually one of the reasons I identify as queer, as well as pansexual.

I would also like to point out that being a slut or a whore doesn’t mean that you’re not practicing safe sex, to infer otherwise is just slut shaming. Also, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being slutty or a whore, enjoying consensual, responsible safe sex is what matters, not how many different partners you have, or how often those partners change.

h/t fuckyeahbisexuals

7 thoughts on “Can’t You Feel The Love? Biphobia in The Bisexual Community

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  2. I agree. I do dislike the phenomenon of pretending to be bisexual for attention, when done knowing you’re not remotely even bicurious, but to be bicurious is fine imho.

    People slut shaming probably pisses me off even more though!

    NK x

  3. “Being bisexual” just to get sexual attention is one of the lowest forms of low I can think of. “Bar-sexuals” just…ooooh they piss me off. Don’t knowingly misrepresent your own sexuality or mack on other girls just so the guy in the corner will bone you and never call you after that night…it gives the rest of us bisexuals and other-sexuals a bad rap. Life ain’t a porno, stop trying to make it one. Plus it just shows that you’re unhappy with yourself, that you’re willing to hide your true sexuality and be something you’re not just to get laid, or just to get talked about.

    THAT BEING SAID…
    Be curious, investigate your sexuality safely and responsibly. But don’t say you’re one thing or another just to make people want you more. Be happy with who you REALLY are, not who other people want you to be. And don’t forget to value yourself above the thrill of partnering up…sex only gets you so much, love yourself before trying to give your love to someone else. If you’re not sure of your sexuality, by all means explore…but please for the love of God be honest with yourself and others. Be safe, be responsible, have fun, and never forget yourself.
    I’m pansexual, I’m genderfluid (my norm being androgynous but I can go either way). I’m not going to pretend to be straight, or gay, or female, or male, just to get attention, whether it be social or sexual. I’ll mack a girl if I’m truly attracted to her, and only if I’m truly attracted to her…I just can’t understand why someone would mack on another woman if she 100% knows she isn’t attracted to women. It’s just not enjoyable, and it’s only a means to an end in most cases, meaning she’s USING that other woman as bait to get to what she really wants.

    Oh. Right. People-using also pisses me off.

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