Formspring.me Questions & Answers Part 8

A roundup of the latest questions that I have been asked through formspring.me.

Sadism – nature or nurture?
mainly nature, but you can have instances of nurture

Is there anything you would not do for love, if so, what is it?
kill, I would not kill anyone

If you could own any kind of pet, what would it be?
a ferret, I would love to own a ferret!! But alas, they are illegal in New Zealand

How do you personally define what constitutes as sex?
if you’re performing an act of any kind & you believe it’s sex, then it’s sex, it’s all about intent

Which Star Wars character do you most identify with?
I haven’t watched enough Star Wars movies, or often enough to answer this question

Ever have a near death experience?
thankfully, no

If you were asked how many times you have had sex in your life, what do you think the answer would be?
a huge number, I don’t even know how to guess that

Have you ever had incestuous thoughts before?
no, unless you count having sex with my clone

Would you ever consider opening up your relationship to some physical play with another couple? Would it require all persons to agree and attend at all times? Or could just one partner play with full consent?
I consider our relationship to already be an open one, we have played with other couples before, requires agreement of all parties involved, and one partner can play alone with full consent

If you knew that you would die the next time you had sex, would you remain celibate forever, or have sex that one last time?
I would probably remain celibate, as long as I can still cuddle… that is of course unless it includes masturbation, then I’m totally going to die

What is a Dominant? (A brief definition please. Looking for help to put into words. Thank you.)
Someone who has authority over a submissive, ideally while employing great respect for the others involved so as to not take advantage

What made you smile today?
A satirical letter in the letters to the editor in the newspaper

What is your morning routine?
wake up, have breakfast (which normally consists of a coffee and something else), read the front couple of pages of the paper and the letters to the editor, get dressed/have shower, have a smoke, everything from then on varies

I’m getting sick and tired of people talking about Claire and myself. All I ever hear is how we’re apparently weird, illegal, and gross. I don’t know if I can take it anymore. I think I’m done with formspring. Gonna close it soon. I’d be better off right?
Umm… I don’t know who you or Claire are….

does the carpet match the curtains?
indeed it does

top 3 twitter crushes
@bexielady, @mydesire, and @flexibeast

Want to know something about me, or what I think about something? Ask me here.

Potential Pitfalls of an Unconventional Relationship

I know I have really done many, if any, posts regarding my interest in BDSM or polyamory.

This first post regarding polyamory is written by Sylvanus of At Longing’s End about his open marriage with Mina.

Sometimes I swear Mina and I are the same person… I identify with her so closely. The same can be said for the way I feel about Violet.

Anyway, Sylvanus’s post about polyamory is exactly the way J and I feel about someone who we would invite to share in our relationship.

The second post is about D/s relationships. I wish I had read something like this years ago, then maybe I wouldn’t have been naive enough to think that there was no need for a safe word, because “I trust him so much and he would never do anything to me that I didn’t want”. After I was at the receiving end of anal rape, I knew this was not the case. Because of this incident, I felt it was vital for me to share Sylvanus’s post with you all.

You don’t always have to learn from your own mistakes, sometimes it’s more than wise to learn from the mistakes and advice of others.