Because It Affects All of Us

This is a pretty fantastic post about a cis white guy and his response to an equally pretty awful post which appeared in the UK’s Observer:

Here’s why I take transgender issues personally…

Because I or someone I love might get cancer at some point, and a trans person who is capable of discovering the cure is otherwise occupied defending their right to exist.

I live in a world that needs leadership, and a smart, tireless trans person who should maybe be President is busy arguing that they deserve basic human respect.

I want to drive a fucking flying car someday, and the trans person who might invent it is stuck responding to Guardian editorials that treat them like they’re subhuman.

Dan Solomon, The Frisky

It shows that there are actually people don’t live solely in their own bubble, not caring about the consequences of what they say/do.  There are people who realise that unless we get our shit together and treating everyone else the way we expect to be treated, the way they deserve to be treated, no matter their race, gender, sexuality, and the way they choose to display their identity.  If we can’t do that, then every single one of us is fucked.  And that makes me despair for humanity a little less, and the future is a little less bleak.

H/T Violet Blue



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Gender & Identity

I already posted about this on my tumblr, but I thought the issue was important enough to post here as well.

Pan Party: To the submitter via email address: (TW: gender erasure)


I’m sorry, I don’t feel comfortable posting your submission as it is.

You’ve kind of mixed up sex and gender, when you talk about being a girl or boy and genitals.

You’ve kind of mixed up gender presentation and gender, when you talk about suits and dresses.

Gender isn’t gender roles, either. And when you say that there’s no such thing as gender, and that gender is a social construct, I understand it’s because you’ve mixed it up with sex and presentation, but you erase people genders and insist they are false.

We all know that genitals, clothes or anything else isn’t gender and doesn’t define gender. But gender is real. You say you’re pansexual, but I wouldn’t feel comfortable in a relationship with someone who didn’t believe my gender existed.

Also, how did you submit via email address?

Totally right, it’s the presentation of gender, what is ‘normal’ and what isn’t, which is a social construct, not gender itself.

People construct their own gender themselves in the way that is true for them, to say that it is constructed by society is to take away a person’s identity, make them less of a person.

The Pervocracy’s Gender Smörgåsbord

Slowly catching up on all the fantastic blogs I follow… again… I do seem to get backlogged an awful lot…

Anyway, The Pervocracy has come up with an excellent analogy for the way things ideally should be with regards to gender:

Imagine a big table with tons of dishes laid out. Some of them are physical traits, some of them are psychological. There’s everything here from “big biceps” to “played with dolls as a child.” And there are all traits here, not just things you’d associate with gender–this is a table of traits, not of mixed up boy things and girl things. “Brown hair” and “likes classical music” are on there too.

Go ahead, load up your plate. Load it with anything.

And the really important thing here is that the dishes are not paired off. “Chest hair” and “breasts” are not a dichotomy. You can get one, both, or neither. Ditto “watches pro wrestling” and “sews prom dresses.” Certainly some dishes are popularly eaten together–“penis” and “testicles” is a perennial favorite combo, and “penis” and “likes racecars” do seem to have some mysterious association–but they’re not locked together. It’s possible and acceptable to have one and not the other. Then again, anything that’s possible is acceptable. And any combination is possible.

You can read the rest of the post here.

It certainly does provide a lot of food for thought (pun not intended), especially when you read it in conjunction with A Child Called X which I first blogged about here.

You can see how society has developed two prix fixe menus, one for each gender/sex. If you are to choose something which is not from your “correct” menu, society has programed others to harshly judge you, sometimes violently. I long for the day where society doesn’t have a problem with change and difference, and we really are all individuals and accepted as so. When we are no longer forced into little boxes and are allowed to show pride in our differences and not fear reprisal.

h/t The Pervocracy